I was driving through a suburb I initially wanted to live in for its quietness, greenery and clean streets. It is a beautiful neighbourhood and I could see myself living there but we couldn’t find a house on sale for months until we gave up. The agent had warned us that empty properties in that suburb were hard to come by but we kept on looking nonetheless.
A year later, having settled in a new and perfect home for us in a different suburb I got to learn that the ‘dream suburb’ was visited by snakes at times as it is built on the rocks. The structure of the houses is solid and it is very rear that you would hear about cracks in the walls. So even though that it seemed like a dream place to live in, it had its own pitfalls.
They say not all that glitters is gold and the grass is not always greener on the other side which is true coming to think of it. There are times when God just says no to our requests, not because He wants to deny us but to protect us from any form of harm.
God loves us and He sees into the future, past and present time. He knows where the dangers are. Perhaps if my children and I weren’t afraid of reptiles, He could have blessed us with a home in that suburb but since He knows our weaknesses, no can do, for our own good. Romans 8:28 says, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose”.
Moreover, Jesus says in Luke 11:11-13, “Which of you fathers, if your son asks for a fish, will give him a snake instead? Or if he asks for an egg, will give him a scorpion? If you then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give the Holy Spirit to those who ask him!” God doesn’t give us things that He knows are not good for us no matter how much we ask. He has only our best interest at heart.
A similar verse is found in Matthew 6:28-32, “And why do you worry about clothes? See how the flowers of the field grow. They do not labour or spin. Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his splendour was dressed like one of these. If that is how God clothes the grass of the field, which is here today and tomorrow is thrown into the fire, will he not much more clothe you—you of little faith? So do not worry, saying, ‘What shall we eat?’ or ‘What shall we drink?’ or ‘What shall we wear?’ For the pagans run after all these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them.”
If God says no, He surely has a better thing in mind that will serve us better and so if we don’t get what we ask for now, there’s no need to worry, at the right time, He will grant a better deal and the most suitable gift. Perhaps those homes were ridiculously priced or the maintenance of the place was equally absurd.
We’ve had thousands of people die without seeing the fulfilment of their desires and perhaps it was God saying, ‘that is not useful for you but where you are right now is the place you need to be’. Some have pushed hard enough that they ended up regretting their choices.
I could have insisted on the house in that suburb and no other until we found one on sale, however, I let go of the idea and accepted that perhaps we were not meant to live there. What if the house on sale was infested with all kinds of creepy crawlies, and the owners put it on sale at a low price just to get rid of it? So, God has enough information to simply say no to us.
Proverbs 3:5-6 says:
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
in all your ways submit to him,
and he will make your paths straight”.
Sometimes, we swim against the tide and not flow with it and in that way, we accomplish nothing because the tide pushes back. Whatever that you try to fight, fights back. When we trust that God will give us the right things that we need, at the right time, we will have peace.
We need to ask God to grant us what He knows is for our highest good because sometimes we don’t know. When things are just not coming right, no matter how hard you try, surrender it to God, put it in His to do list and let it go. At the right time, you will see things improving or whatever you desire presented in a different but perfect way.
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