August 28, 2017 by Kgalalelo
I always tell every single lady who I meet and everyone who cares to listen that I believe in making prayer lists for everything I want in life. It makes things easy for me to be detailed to God about the things I require from Him. The Bible says that “delight yourself in God, and He will give you the desires of your heart” (Psalm 37:4). The word delight simply means that find your joy in the Lord, immerse yourself in the Lord, find your pleasure in the Lord and He will certainly reward you immensely. This requires faith, trusting in the Lord and spending time with the Lord. Most of all, be aware of the many things God does for you and thank Him. Gratitude is the most powerful prayer, I’ve since discovered. It’s my lifestyle, it’s my religion. I give thanks to God every single day. I always find time to journal and write all the things I am grateful for.
I learnt about “the list” from my home cell group leader back when I was twenty five years old. We met in church one time and I took a liking in her. We were attending a women’s conference and we had sat next to each other that day and we spend the entire day together. Our friendship began there and she invited me one time to join their home cell group at her house and arranged to pick me up. Every Wednesday she would come with the husband at my flat at 18:00 p.m. to fetch me and took me back home without fail. This went on for a while until one time I expressed my desire to find a life partner to her and get married one day.
She informed me that when she was looking for a husband she had written a list of all the qualities that she wanted in a partner and presented this to God in prayer. She kept the list in her Bible that she may remember it all the time and to remind God every now and then about her desire. She said that she prayed to the Lord that He should keep the wrong ones away, they should literally walk very far from her that she may not be disturbed. She also asked God that she may recognise Mr Wright when he walked in her life and she kept her focus in worshipping the Lord.
She mentioned that she used the bus to go to and from church every Sunday morning and evening. The bus picked up congregants at different bus stops in her township and one day as she was in the bus returning from church, there was a handsome, medium height guy with curly hair in the bus with her. He was an active member of the church and that day he had taken that same bus home to the same township and because he was in one of the ministries in the church, he was delegated with taking the bus fare from the passengers inside the bus. It was common to allow passengers to go in without payment and the assigned person would collect the fare inside of the bus so that no time was wasted. The church had two services, and therefore, congregants had to hurry home in order to prepare for the second service.
The friendly and good looking gentleman approached her for the fee and his eyes never left her. I was told that he started using the same bus as he knew the routes only to see the gorgeous lady he had met and the rest was history. I was surely invited to the wedding which was spectacular. It was one of the most beautiful weddings I had ever went to and when she narrated her story I was interested in how she knew that was the guy for her and she told me that she had written the list! The list was the answer as when they both met, they knew that they belonged together. No other man approached her as she had asked the Lord for no interference and when this particular one came her way and he started talking to her with interest, they both knew that they were the partners they were each praying for. The husband also confessed to having prayed as well for the right partner, though he never made the list, he had it in his memory bank and could remember the things that he asked God for and God delivered on time and the perfect person. They have two teenage children now and they are still going strong having been married for the past fifteen years.
Well, when she gave me her formula, I used it too. I formulated my own list with the qualities of the husband I was looking for. I tore the list shortly after my wedding as I had found my husband but perhaps regret having done so as I could have used it to assist other young ladies about how to formulate their list. The first thing though that I remember that was also in my friend’s list was to ask for a godly man. This was item number one on the list, that God may give me the man who reveres and has the fear of the Lord. No one should compromise on this first item, it comes first and last, and all the other things can be in the middle.
I put on my list everything I thought I wanted at that time from the character to the finer things, the height, the looks and the personal ambitions. I was detailed and wrote it as selfishly as I could have it and at the end I said “God, adjust this list according to your highest good for me, your will and your purpose for my life are important. You are the one who knows the beginning to the end and the end from the beginning. You know the hiccups, the twist and turns, the pros and the cons of everything and you know me better than I know myself. You know what my tastes would be like at 30, 40, 50 years of age and what I would be doing and should be doing according to your will and that person has to fit perfectly considering the future you have in store for me. He simply has to synchronise with my entire life and of course God is faithful and God provides.
Ladies and gentlemen reading this article, trust in the Lord, rejoice in the Lord always and again I say rejoice for the Lord is good and His mercies endures forever! I am not saying that when you find this godly, divinely selected man there won’t be any problems in your lives, but God would empower you both to handle the challenges of life. Walking with the Lord surely makes the load lighter. When you pray in your little corner alone because you are angry at him, he will pray in another corner as well because you in your own imperfection also, would have done something that he doesn’t appreciate as well. It’s not only about you but the both of you in the marriage. It’s certainly not a one way street but a two way road.
It is my deepest prayer as I write this article that God may lead as many single men and women to this blog. There are synchronicities that we do not understand in life but if we recognise the hand of God in everything we would know that these are not synchronicities but the Holy Spirit who whispers in our ears saying this is the path walk in it. It is my prayer that many single people would formulate their lists too or write a letter to God asking for the perfect partner. Writing a list helps because one day when you are tempted to forget what you have asked God for, you may be reminded.
The list doesn’t only work as far as relationships are concerned, it also works with everything in life. You can prepare your list for anything that you wish God to provide for you. God is able to provide for your needs because He loves you. The Bible says that “now to Him who is able to do infinitely more than all we ask or imagine, according to His power that is at work within us, to Him be the glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever. Amen.” (Ephesians 3:20-21). Amen is an acknowledgement of what is so. You are agreeing that God can give you the desires of your heart. God knows the deep seated desires that you could have forgotten and that you don’t even know consciously that they exist. God knows what is best for you from the beginning to the end. He even knows that what interests you now, would not be of importance to you later or the following year, or when you turn 30, 40 or 50. He prepares the road for all eventualities and prepares your life for all circumstances.
There are times where I feel like I could see from His vintage point. I could sit with Him at His thrown and look down at the map of the world and its people from every corner, everything that everyone is doing and what each road we take leads to. I am more interested in my own life that I could see it from the throne room in a dream or in trance like state under the normal circumstances. In Acts 10:9-16 the Bible says about Peter “About noon the next day, while they were on their way and approaching the city, Peter went up on the roof to pray. He became hungry and wanted to eat, but while they were preparing the meal, a trance came over him. He saw heaven opened and an object something like a large sheet descending, being let down to earth by its four corners. In it were all kinds of four-footed animals and reptiles of the earth and wild birds. Then a voice said to him, “Get up, Peter; slaughter and eat!” But Peter said, “Certainly not, Lord, for I have never eaten anything defiled and ritually unclean!” The voice spoke to him again, a second time, “What God has made clean, you must not consider ritually unclean!” This happened three times, and immediately the object was taken up into heaven”. You need to read from the beginning of the chapter though to get the full story.
This is how I would like to walk with God and it is surely in my prayer list. I believe that as God provided the best partner for me, He can also enable me to experience visions as He did with Peter and provide even the interpretation of those visions. God can do anything and He is capable. The Bible says that “No eye has seen, no ear has heard, and no mind has imagined what God has prepared for those who love him” (1 Corinthians 2:9). We can never fathom the greatness of God fully. We therefore come up with our own limitations and fears. Perhaps at times God feels broken hearted as a result of our lack of faith and how we box him because our own imaginations cannot comprehend His capabilities. It is therefore, important that we should heed to good counsel, godly teachings and above all the voice of the Holy Spirit that we shouldn’t miss out on the goodness of God.
I stand in awe all the time about what God is doing in my life, He is doing amazing things. He gets me out of the jam sometimes in ways that I never knew existed, He provides for me in ways that never crossed my mind. All that I give is my list of desires and ask Him to tweak them according to His will for my life. We need to understand that in relationships God doesn’t only look at you but the person who needs to come into your life who needs you too to fulfil his or her own purpose in life. God, therefore, brings two souls together who harmonises perfectly to fulfil the ultimate Will of God.
I rejoice and am filled with gratitude and give all the honour and the glory unto God for His goodness and His unconditional love for us. The favour of God is upon us brethren, revel in it and the more you do, the more God shows you His greatness.
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Kgalalelo Saane Mphephuka
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