I had been feeling overwhelmed by the responsibilities in the house and thank God that I was able to take a break last week. My Saturdays were clouded by cleaning, doing laundry, cooking and making sure that everything for the following week was ready including the school uniform. I went before the Lord one Sunday morning to present my case before Him. I guess I was not really a pleasure to be around for some time and my family was certainly not enjoying me because I was distant. I was focusing on all the things that needed to be done around the house more than spending time with my family. It’s only when I needed help that I would cry out, otherwise, I piled so much work on myself since I didn’t have a helper.
It had been a full year since my previous helper had left, she had requested that we terminate her employment as she was a sickly person. She had a heart condition and it would attack her usually in the middle of the night. We would hear with the door opening that she had gone outside in the middle of the night as she needed fresh air. She said it helped her. We had often called the ambulance to come and fetch her at home to take her to the hospital but this time she had declined as she had felt that even if she went to the hospital, the problem recurred. We had to let her go as she needed time to rest and take care of her herself.
After her departure, I didn’t feel like having another person around the house. I felt that I could handle everything with the help of my husband and the kids. If everyone did their bit every day we would be fine. For a while things were okay and we were really coping until such time when I started having extra personal projects and too much assignments at work. It was then that I felt I couldn’t continue anymore. I didn’t have the energy to clean the house nor to do laundry even though I didn’t really have a choice. I did laundry of the whole family and on Saturdays we hardly had anything to do except tidy up, by the time we were finished it was almost in the late afternoon and that meant cooking. It became too much and even though the family helped, we were all overwhelmed and needed help.
I began searching for a helper who would come twice a week instead of the initial arrangement of having someone living with us. My husband had felt that the kids were grown and we didn’t really need someone full time as we taught them to fold their clothes and tidy up their bedrooms. They could even wash themselves and that minimised work for us. The plan seemed perfect but I realised that I had been spoiled to have someone daily and that arrangement seemed flawed to me, however, my husband had a point and so I heeded. I started calling people I knew would support me and the first one being my husband’s cousin. She was always keen to help and knew people who were unemployed in her area who would appreciate the job.
I knew that we would one way or the other find someone but it was a matter of when and finding the perfect person who was both effective and efficient. Weeks passed and we kept on struggling, the more we struggled the more reserved I became and I got tired even more. It seemed like the more I wanted a person, the more work piled up and making it difficult to cope. I realised that housework was no child’s play. It really needed dedication. I really honour a lot of home makers, who have to keep up with this kind of work daily. It is a full time job that is not paid for really, that is, being a mother and a wife. It comes as a given that if you are at home then you will have to do all the house work and still cook in the evening for the family. Perhaps I am not cut out for such work or maybe because I have been working for years, I am more comfortable being out there. I give a round of applause to all the women and the men who stay at home to look after the children full time and still take care of the household chores. It is commendable!
My husband’s cousin indeed called me after a while and informed me that she had found someone and I should come to her house and she would arrange that we meet.
I have finally found someone who relieves the pressure off me! She is hands on and got initiative. I don’t have to tell her what to do, when I return from work, the only thing that my husband and I does is to cook. The laundry and the house are well taken care of.
It is the same principle with God. All we have to do is to ask for help. The Bible says “Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives; the one who seeks finds; and to the one who knocks, the door will be opened” (Matthew 7: 7-8).
God is always waiting for us to call unto him and seek help. He has legions of angels lined up for deployment. We put angels out of work if we don’t call unto God for help. God has unlimited resources that He utilises for our help. He has the best methods; the unlimited barns of supply; unlimited wells of water; unlimited stock of everything in the warehouse and unlimited people for different types of work. You can’t always do it on your own but if you don’t ask, no help will come forth! God knows that you do need help and things in your life but until you approach Him, everything will remain dormant. Jesus healed those who came to Him; who recognised that He had the power and the resources to meet their needs and who cried for help and relief.
We hear in Luke 18: 35-43: “As Jesus approached Jericho, a blind man was sitting by the roadside begging. When he heard the crowd going by, he asked what was happening. They told him, “Jesus of Nazareth is passing by.” He called out, “Jesus, Son of David, have mercy on me!” Those who led the way rebuked him and told him to be quiet, but he shouted all the more, “Son of David, have mercy on me!” Jesus stopped and ordered the man to be brought to him. When he came near, Jesus asked him, “What do you want me to do for you?” “Lord, I want to see,” he replied. Jesus said to him, “Receive your sight; your faith has healed you.” Immediately he received his sight and followed Jesus, praising God. When all the people saw it, they also praised God”.
The blind man, cried out for help and never cared what others thought of him. He was the one who was sitting with a disability and those who reprimanded him, had sight. He recognised his own need, the desire that came from his spirit and asked! He received his sight immediately, not later or the following day but right on the spot. His lack of self-consciousness, gained him sight and those who were around him, probably thinking that he was embarrassing himself, also praised God when they saw the manifestation of his desire. It gave them also the will and desire to ask for their own needs to be fulfilled which were in other areas. God is able to meet any need, no matter how trivial it is. We often think that we need to ask God only for things that are bigger, or those that seem to make sense to us, but He can do anything as with Him, nothing is impossible.
You can therefore include everything that is a challenge in your prayer. The request for a helper in the house was birthed in prayer. I did ask God to provide the perfect person who will not only be a good worker, but someone who would love my children and my children would love her and it was so!
The scripture says “Now unto him that is able to do exceedingly abundantly above all that we ask or think, according to the power that worketh in us, unto him be glory in the church by Christ Jesus throughout all ages, world without end. Amen”.
God performs miracles indeed and we can only give Him praise and gratitude for everything that He does for us. Pray, ask and receive.
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