November 29, 2020 by Kgalalelo
The Word came to my heart as I was watching my husband preparing himself for a church meeting one time. There had been a number of these for some time where he was required to attend similar meetings and most of them were during the week in the evenings.
It was difficult for me to accompany him at times as a result of household chores, preparing dinner, supervising the children for homework, checking if their school uniform was ready for the next day and ensuring that everything was in place before bedtime. It is a lot to handle and creating balance can be challenging sometimes. It is not always easy to juggle all the balls in the air and running the affairs of the family on the other hand.
As soon as my husband had gone and I knew that he would be back late and sometimes when kids had gone to bed, I thought about how doing different things that are not quite aligned might create problems in marriages and families. I was in Bible school back in 2004 which was run by a couple who once taught based on their experience that pulling in different directions can harm the marriage at times. I was engaged to be married at that time, and I never could forget about that message.
They shared about how the misalignment of their goals nearly broke their marriage, going in opposite directions and not having the time for each other and the children.
Marriage was on the cards for me but I never anticipated how busy things can be with other activities that are equally important in life, however, I realised that when you are walking in agreement, God sees you through.
This couple went on to say that they went before the Lord in prayer about their situation that seemed to be tearing them apart and God showed them ways to still serve Him but enjoy their marriage as well.
It was wonderful that they were teaching bible school together and on that particular day, taught our class together. God never impresses a lesson in the mind of humans without an intention. It is to help us in the future because He knows what is awaiting us. God knows the next meal you will eat at lunch time, the clothes you will wear tomorrow and every experience you will ever have.
He has everything covered and you will do yourself a whole world of good to remember the lessons. I call them signposts on the road or markers and because I could vividly remember this, I knew that it was one of my signposts in the marriage. Being together in the Lord makes things easier for couples as you understand each other’s schedules, assignments and activities that are before you in the ministry. It eliminates strife and unnecessary brawls in the house.
I know of a church which marries congregants strictly within the church and you can’t marry outside. For a long time, I wondered why this practice because we are all believers but recognised that they have ways of doing things in the church that others might not understand, the modest way they dress to the frequency of the church services throughout the week. The partner who is not accepting of all of these could make it difficult for another.
We might not all agree to the way they do things but every ministry has its way same as every household runs things differently. When I pondered on all of these things, I comprehended the importance of walking together and being equally yoked, having the same beliefs and values.
When my husband went to church for the meetings, I knew about them because they were announced in church and in the text messages of the church and knew what the meetings were all about. I did not wrestle with that because I identified with the church and its programmes and the overall vision of the ministry.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 says,
“Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labour:
If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up.
Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken”.
If we are not in harmony with each other, we would have multiple roadblocks. No one is saying that relationships are without challenges, everyone gets opposition every now and then but the tests and trials might seem unsurmountable if you are heading in different directions.
“Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? Or what does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols?” In 2 Corinthians 6:14-16
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Kgalalelo Saane Mphephuka
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