March 27, 2017 by Kgalalelo
I know that I can ask God for anything. The scripture says “delight yourself also in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart” (Psalm 37:4).
I have seen most of my desires met but there have been instances where I prayed and yet didn’t see the manifestation of those desires. I did everything that the ‘books’ said I should do including all kinds of teachings. I fasted among other things, created a vision board and used many affirmations and yet remained where I was, not having that which I asked for.
I believe in all these methods I’ve mentioned above but realised that there are different perspectives to unanswered prayers and I looked at my own life to discover why and what I found was that firstly, it was more the case of readiness on my side because God is always prepared, He is never taken aback. Before you make your request, He already knows what you want.
We often use the phrase “in God’s timing” and I have used it too and still does, but I since learnt through my own experiences that individual readiness plays a major role. So God’s timing becomes your timing when you look at it in another way, meaning whatever you desire and ask God for also depends on your mental preparedness to receive.
Secondly, I’ve been taught the art of sitting in silence during meditation classes and observe my thoughts without discrimination. I witnessed how these thoughts came in and disappeared and some would come carrying heavy emotions. I was trained to feel the emotions fully and never run away from them and it was in those moments that the real truth would surface. My desires would come up as well and at the core of my being, I would know if I was hundred percent sure that I wanted some of the things I was praying for. I would sit for a while examining myself in relation to those desires and realised that:
It had been me all along, not getting to the place of really trusting God to provide for me and adjusting the desire to be in line with my highest good and having unwavering faith that it has already happened. God specialises in blessings.
You are the only one who can tell the truth of where you are emotionally and whether you believe wholeheartedly. You may chant as many affirmations as you want and pray as hard as you can but the secret is hidden in the innermost chamber of your heart. You can even profess your faith on the rooftops but only you and God knows how you truly feel about your desires. A friend of mine once said that for the mere fact that I didn’t have it, meant that there was something in my mind, my heart and my overall energy field that was preventing the manifestation. She said ‘keep on introspecting and release whatever is holding you back’, and most of the time it was fear of some sort. I didn’t quite understand her at first but I realised that I made U-turns quite a number of times and had to start again and rephrased my desires. I have used my own tongue and thoughts to abort the things I wanted and asked for.
People pray and are prayed for, prophesies are released of great things to happen in our lives in the future and the clairvoyant and clairaudient give us insight of what they see and hear in the supernatural regarding all sorts of events and goodness awaiting us but if we do not allow ourselves to receive, a prophesy will remain unfulfilled. We have to move towards what was prophesied about us and embrace the future experience in the now to see it in manifestation. Where there is doubt, things will always linger until we are ready to receive and move forward. It is always up to us.
Some people feel offended when you tell them that they need to take responsibility for their own lives. It always seem easy and absolves us of any responsibility if we say that we are waiting for God’s good timing only to find that the time had come and gone because we couldn’t trust our own prayers and desires.
Other times we even forget about the things that we have prayed for in the past and ask for other things in the same category. It brings confusion in the ethers of the universe and the heavens about what we really want and as a result, we tend to delay the manifestations of the good that is due to us. God is good all the time and not some of the time as we are His offspring.
Any parent is always eager to give his or her child the best in life. We want our children to do well at school and look for schools that we feel provide a good education. We want to provide good homes, food and all kinds of wonderful things for them. When they hurt, we want to take away their pain and I can imagine that God as a parent only wants the best for us. He is definitely not stingy and when He blessed man he said “Be fruitful and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it” (Genesis 1:28). He had already provided for the anticipated multiplication and we have to come to a place of complete alignment and unwavering faith that we may receive all that He has in store for us. We need to be open to receiving and be very clear about what we wish to receive from God. Delighting in God is pure alignment with your mind, body and spirit.
When we look at things at a different angle as well, some of our desires are huge and that is relative as what is a ‘biggie’ to me might not be a big deal to you. In fact, with God, nothing is ever big. He has all the resources required to meet every need, big and small. You might be wanting to change careers and this might be a source of stress to you and when you are in a place of stressing then you are not aligned to receive what you’ve asked for. You are not delighting in God. You might want a better house and this could be a source of constant tension but the frequency is negative, it’s closing you up as you need to come to a place of gratitude, for the things you have at present.
As much as we want more in life and we will always be in that place because our minds are expanding, we need to be grateful for what we have. Gratitude and true appreciation of what you have opens the taps of heaven. If you don’t have the car, then be grateful that you can use public transport and it’s always around you and you have legs and can walk. It will even help you with a bit of exercise which is a positive thing. When you are grateful, you are delighting in God and are in full alignment and surely the desires of your heart will come through. Try to be clear as well about what you really want, you are not necessarily helping God but yourself to shorten the time of manifestation.
Footnote: All scriptures are taken from the The Holy Bible, New King James Version, 1982: Nashville, TN, Thomas Nelson, Inc.
March 20, 2017 by Kgalalelo
“Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me, all the days of my life and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever” (Psalm 23: 6).
These are the words of David in the Bible. He had trouble in his life too. Saul wanted to kill him because he was anointed as the next king of Israel and where there is a throne involved there’s power, fame, authority and benefits. These seem to be the common attractions and affections of human beings. Some of us would enjoy living in a palace and be surrounded by servants, pampered and be honoured. Even having all of these bequeathed unto him, David had moments of fear but He had an outlet and a place of security. He ran to God instead of away from Him and He made a decision to live in the house of the Lord forever.
We all go through moments where we are consumed by fear. Fear is very overwhelming and traumatic. We are afraid of just about anything in life; people, animals, creeping things, public speaking, death and the unknown. I must say that I fall in most categories and the fear of the unknown appears to be one of the weirdest forms of fears that makes me think overtime. We all seem to require confirmation that things will work out, that we will win the race, that we will do well in the exams, that we will get the driver’s license, our speech would get accolades, that the woman will say yes when the man proposes, that the customers would buy our products, that we would ace the job interview, that we would do well in business and other areas of life. The list is endless but all of us can find ourselves somewhere in between.
It’s even weirder that fear creeps at us from childhood and throughout adulthood. If you meet a ninety year old woman and ask her what she is afraid of, she would definitely give you a list. Abram was afraid of being killed by the Egyptians in the Bible. He had migrated to Egypt with His wife Sarai because of the famine where they lived and he said to the wife, tell the Egyptians that you are my sister so that they would spare me. The man was afraid for his own life. He had a beautiful wife and chances were that they would get rid of him but spare the woman. This was a man who was called by God; even the called, experience fear but complete faith in God surpasses anything.
When my daughter finished Grade 0 and preparing for Grade 1, I found her crying in her room one day and she said to me ‘Mommy, I cannot read nor write, how am I going to make it in Grade 1?' There had been a child in her Grade 0 class who could read already. My child was saddened by the fact that she couldn’t read nor hold a pen properly and was fearful. Her concern was genuine and I understood what was in her heart. She was only six but as a parent, I paid attention and tried to come up with the best response I could give her that she would be taught by the teacher and we would also help her at home. In the middle of the year in Grade 1, she was a pro and could read and write and I reminded her about how scared she was of Grade 1. She feared the unknown and felt that she had to be prepared.
Most of us are indeed afraid of what we don’t know. We all want to be equipped and know how things would turn out but God invites us to trust Him all the time. There are many scriptures in the Bible where God says ‘do not be afraid and trust me’ but is it what we do? Often not. We go to churches and temples every Sunday and hear the same things but implementing what we have received is often challenging. A certain pastor once said that we usually have Sunday experiences. We jump up and down on a Sunday morning and encourage pastors to preach but as soon as we leave the church premises, we forget all about what was said. Someone cuts you off on the road and you become fearful and upset, your partner says something and you get angry and offended and you rehearse the trouble you are in at work right outside the church premises.
Fear has never benefited me even now. I struggle as I move along but I know where to run to like David. I rest in the secret place of the Most High God and hide myself there. There is a song by Peter Tosh that says “if you live in a glass house, don’t throw stones”. He was right, do not cause harm to another so that harm should not come to you. Those who cause another pain, are usually afraid of being harmed themselves but if anyone can throw stones at you being innocent, when you live in the bosom of God, no stone will break you. He secures you tightly and protect you from the harshness of the world, the judgements of people, the insults and criticism. You are a delicate glass in God’s hand and He loves you enough to secure you. He will not leave you nor forsake you but will always be by your side.
He is your shield and buckler
He is your refuge and strength
He is your fortress
He is your shepherd
He is your light and salvation
He is the stronghold of your life
He saves you
He sustains you
There are also different layers of fear and as soon as you overcome a certain type of fear, another one surfaces. Learn to stop in the middle of your fear and call upon your Creator, the one who knows about the root of fear and He will rescue you. He is a loving father and mother. He nurtures you, carries you in His arms and at the same time diffusing the spears of those trying to attack you.
We need to be aware of our fears and acknowledge them to be able to ask God for help and allow Him to help us. Let us be grateful that the one who has promised us victory, is surely faithful and keeps His promises.
He is surely with us.
Footnote: All scriptures are taken from the The Holy Bible, New King James Version, 1982: Nashville, TN, Thomas Nelson, Inc.
March 13, 2017 by Kgalalelo
Albert Einstein once said that “there are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle”.
My ten year old daughter asked me one morning how the breastmilk was formed and whether I still had milk since she knew that I breastfed her with her little sister when they were babies. I gave her the best response I could without going too much into biology and that the milk has since dried up when I stopped breastfeeding. I found her question remarkable as I thought about the awesomeness of God, how He created systems in the body to work automatically and in anticipation of any process He created. Breastfeeding was not a difficult process, though in the beginning it was challenging and overwhelming. I wondered most of the time whether I was doing it right and if the baby was getting enough milk especially when they started crying, I would panic. Once I got the hang of it, it became easier and enjoyable.
God created a perfect symbiosis between the demand and supply. When the baby suckled, milk had to come. The milk had to obey as the baby called forth what was necessary for it to survive. This may sound trivial but it is a magnificent process of life. All processes that God created are noteworthy and this is another of the many reasons to glorify God. I am learning quite a bit from my daughters and the kind of questions they ask. They seem innocent but there is wisdom in what they query. You can even hear that they think things through and really expect you to give them answers. Any response that you give as a parent at that early age is acceptable to them because they trust you.
I am definitely enjoying my journey with them and their concerns and questions usually makes me think. I often wonder where they get the capacity to question things and realise that they are souls themselves and have a mind that works. We are only stewards of God upon them and we should pray for God to give us the wisdom to direct them according to His will upon their lives.
All of life is a miracle, the breath that we take, the ability to speak and walk, the hunger signal etc., all of it is a miracle! There are hundreds of miracles we hear about in the Bible, from Genesis right through to Revelations. When God created the heavens and the earth it was a miracle and when John saw and received revelation from Jesus at the island of Patmos it was a miracle. This world that we live in is one gigantic miracle that needs to be acknowledged.
It was a miracle that Moses could just lift his staff and part the red sea. Such an occurrence is not just a good story from a historic book but serves as an illustration of the greatness of God and for me, it is confirmation that with God all things are possible. Skeptics often say that there is no way that Mary could have conceived without knowing a man but that debate is insignificant to me and really exhausts my mind for one simple piece of information that indeed with God all things are possible, not “some of the things” but “all things”. This is the scripture that sums it all up for me. I do not need to tire theologians or any man of the cloth to try and explain it to me in anyway than this. God can do anything, all creation belongs to Him and the art of creating. He said that we can also call forth things that are not as though they were. You need to have absolute faith that with the ability that He has given you, you can indeed emulate Him.
We experience miracles today. I have seen plenty of them through my life. The fact that I was born, is in itself a miracle as well as my brothers and sister. The order in which we came into existence, is not a coincidence. I am the fourth of five children and that was known to God before any of us were born. He said “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you. Before you were born I sanctified you” (Jeremiah 1:5). He knew the date, the hospital, the weather condition, the environment and the time. I believe I am a 5.a.m. baby. My mother did tell me when she was still alive; no wonder I am energetic especially in the morning. I couldn’t help but be born in the early hours of the morning. That is incredible on its own for God’s own delight.
My mom might have suffered from a lack of sleep because of the birth pains but a miracle had to come into existence. All of us are miracles, my birth was no special than the next person according to the human eye but was special to God as much as yours was. This is because we are unique and the circumstances of our birth were different for God’s own purpose.
When Jesus was born, His star was recognised, meaning that His birth affected the cosmos. It must have sparkled in a different way, a way that nobody has ever seen and those who knew cosmology, knew that that star belonged to Jesus and this could only be through divine revelation. It made the three wise men to get up and carry gifts to honour the miracle that was due to come. This divine occurrence, was already in progress and couldn’t have been stopped by anyone including those who intended to kill the baby. The events where already scheduled, that at some point in the future, there should be a baptism and a large ministry that is still in existence today and talked about by even those who are not necessarily of Jesus. They know about His life, ministry, the miracles He performed and His ascension to heaven.
Every day is a miracle, let your awareness kick in, then you will experience all kinds of miracles in your life:
Look at how you progressed from one grade to another and ended up with a profession years after, it was a divine occurrence. God works like a GPS sometimes, even when you miss your way, He recalculates and rearranges things to get you in the right direction. He rearranges the seasons, the people and the circumstances to get you where you need to be. It is a miracle. Years back when my husband and I had gone to Durban for a vacation we got lost in the middle of the night in the part of the city which was known to be a little rough and as soon as we prayed and asked God for direction, he took us to the correct street and we found the guest house we were booked in. When you go around in circles and can’t seem to find your way, call on to God and He will show you the way immediately. He will open your eyes and suddenly you will recognise where you were and where you are supposed to go.
Miracles therefore, become everyday occurrences that you wouldn’t have figured out simply on your own; a solution to a problem that comes from within, you receive ideas that were never there before, you arrive home safe and sound while driving like a sleepwalker because you were thinking too hard. You miss the train to go to a life changing interview and when you finally get there, the schedule had been miraculously changed because somebody else had to be accommodated for some reason and yours is next, so you were basically right on time. It can be anything that requires you at the end of the day to say thank you God for the miracle. You give unwavering gratitude for what you’ve experienced because in your own wisdom, you wouldn’t have figured it out.
When the experts tell us that we need to have the season when the wind blows unceasingly at times, we shouldn’t see that as an inconvenience all the time but know that pollen also has to be dispersed by the wind to the ground to bring forth new life, in plants. We realise that nature as well, creates its own miracles and after the wind and the dust, the rain clouds gather and it rains to water the seeds that have been planted by the process of nature itself.
It’s a miracle!
Footnote: All scriptures are taken from the The Holy Bible, New King James Version, 1982: Nashville, TN, Thomas Nelson, Inc.
March 6, 2017 by Kgalalelo
You can give thanks for anything in your life. There are literally hundreds and thousands of things that have occurred in your life that you can be grateful for. Sit back and think, from your childhood to adulthood, or maybe you are in your teen years, you can look back and see how God has helped you at school, in your extra mural activities, at home, with your friendships and the like. Gratitude is always a great way to begin. It alleviates all sorts of things in life.
You read statistics and hear about people who are depressed daily because things are going wrong in their lives, but in the same breath, there are many things that did go well for them in the past and still going right in the present. The past blessings will always boost your confidence and the determination to carry on. You will fall off the bandwagon sometimes. It also happens to me, I’m not immune to the stuff of life but make sure that you don’t fall too far. Do not allow yourself to spiral down the bottomless pit. It can be difficult to lift yourself up once you are deep inside the pit. Ditch the ditch!
Sing praises to God who enables you to wake up in the morning and enjoy life. The fact that you are still living shows that there is light inside of you that still has to be revealed and celebrated but you have to make an effort. I often tell a friend of mine at work that in life, you have to help yourself. People can encourage and motivate you and one minute you may feel up beat but the next you can find yourself in the doldrums again. Refuse to spend time there for too long. I know how it feels like to go through tough times in life, I’ve been there and had to keep my head above the water. I will always be grateful to all the spiritual teachers and the souls who helped me awaken and taught me that at the end, I had to help myself, if I wanted to survive.
We all go through times when finances are low, relationships go sour, there’s illness, some lose their jobs and the biggest nightmare of them all, you experience the death of a loved one.
I lost my mother to lupus and other complications in December 2014. She retired at the age of 66 and we were invited to her farewell party at work. As I was sitting there listening to speeches, the matron said that she wanted us to come and hear how good our mother was to them and the kind of work she did while she was still alive, instead of giving the same speech at her death. I had never heard someone speak like that before and I was impressed. We heard how hard-working and dedicated she was. She was an auxiliary nurse at the Klerksdorp hospital, where I was born apparently and she worked in the post and neonatal ward. She would tell me about the time spent with premature babies whenever I went home to visit her.
Shortly after retirement in June 2013, she started getting sick and it was on the 22nd October in that same year that my dad called me to rush home urgently. The state that I found my mom in is something that I will never forget. She was lying on her bed and couldn’t move nor respond when I spoke to her. She was just staring at me and I requested that we take her to the hospital. She had been in and out of hospital since that time, needing to be taken care of and bathed. I imagined that might have frustrated her so much as she was such an independent woman who liked to do things for herself.
When you go through something like that and see how the condition of your loved one slowly deteriorates, you do entertain the thought of death but don’t want to say anything out loud in case you are reprimanded or call it forth. It could be the fear of death that most of us have. The topic of death seems to be a taboo in our societies, whether you are on a spiritual path, enlightened or not.
When the news came that she had passed, I didn’t know what to do with myself but informed my dad that the previous night, I had dreamt about her and it felt like she had come to say goodbye because of the way that she was dressed and the way she looked at me. So, I knew the previous night that something had gone wrong.
Well, going through funeral arrangement you feel and look like a zombie. Most people who have lost loved ones can identify. At the end of the day, I had to soldier up and face this monster called death and do whatever was necessary to assist my father together with my siblings. We, South African black people usually take a week before we bury someone. We go through prayer services during the week in preparation for burial that often take place on Saturdays to accommodate all who would like to attend, be it friends from afar, colleagues and all relatives. We have big funerals. We mourn for the whole week and often neighbours, relatives, the church and other people in the community would visit, hold space, pray and comfort us.
During that week, I would find a few minutes on my own, close the bedroom door and took out my journal. I genuinely practiced gratitude in the midst of tears. I wanted to find things I was grateful for; the people who came to see us and provide comfort, the smooth running of the funeral arrangements, having my family there, the food that was available to feed people, the efficiency of the funeral parlour, support from the church and many other things. I had the box of tissues there but acknowledged the blessings that my family and I were receiving. The grace of God was all over the place and everything was taking care of itself.
Of course the funeral was horrible and even worse when people left and we were left alone to pick up the pieces. I took whatever thing I could find of my mother’s as a reminder, some handbags and scarfs that I still own today. The major task was going through life without her and even there, I saw the hand of God. He never leaves nor forsake us. God provides and you need to look to find, knock and He will open the door, seek Him and you will surely find Him. Things like death, are nothing to Him. He specialises in healing and keeping you busy that you shouldn’t focus all the time on your loss. I know that sometimes guilt creeps in as if you need to think about your loved one all the time. If not, we always think that perhaps we didn’t love them as much but it’s not so. I thought about how my husband and kids needed me and had to go back to work and carry out other responsibilities. Life surely doesn’t come to a standstill because you have suffered a loss but you need to find a way of picking yourself up and holding on to God as the source of your strength.
I visited my younger brother in the months that followed in Rustenburg, 600km away from my home and when I came back, I felt refreshed. I felt like some heaviness had been lifted off and I knew that it was God who threw out the life line. He takes away the sting of death. I still dreamt about my mother a lot after hear death, thought about her but when God is in town, He ensures that even when you think about your loved one, you don’t get to cry out of sorrow all the time. Sometimes it’s just the tears of joy remembering the funny things your loved one used to say or do. You never really forget but as time goes on, the load becomes lighter. It was truly a shocking and a very painful experience but I learnt that God provides solace to go through even the toughest experiences in life. I was surprised at how I decided on my own to go with my aunts to the mortuary to help dress my mom before burial, despite the fear of corpses I had. I am still amazed to this day. God enables you and holds you by the hand.
Think about all the things you have gone through and won and write them in your journal so that when the going gets tough, you will remember the good to survive the worst.
There! Gratitude is that simple.
Kgalalelo Saane Mphephuka
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