February 07, 2021 by Kgalalelo
I have since realised that when certain things happen in life, they are propelling us forward. I have experienced it myself many times. There are times when we need a little push to move forward and sometimes the way in which we can increase and fulfil certain assignments is when we are going through challenging times. Challenges comes in different ways and everyone goes through them. My youngest daughter is beginning Grade 5 and she’s already expressing anxiety about going to a higher grade. As a parent, it is my responsibility to encourage her and to assure her that all will be alright. She will be taught what she needs to know and she will get used to the new teachers.
For most of us, whenever we start something new, a new job, going to a new school, moving to a new city, we get a little nervous about the unknown. Nobody knows what is ahead but we have God who gives us assurances through His promises that He will never leave nor forsake us (Deuteronomy 31:6, Hebrews 13:5). We have entered into a covenant with God and “He is not a man, that He should lie, not a human being, that he should change his mind. Does he speak and then not act? Does he promise and not fulfil?” We have His Word and if we can remember that in the middle of tough situations, then we will be fine knowing that He will come through for us.
I have had many episodes of things not going the way that I want or wanted in my life. Many of us go through that too and even if we are people of faith, it doesn’t mean that every single day will be a breeze, there are times when we fill like screaming because things are just not tying up. We pray and confess the Word of God but still feel like we are swimming against the tide. Even those with highly developed faith, face challenges and experts say that it is how you react to them that makes a difference.
I would say that sometimes when you go through difficulties, it simply is a way of propelling you forward. There are things that you would have never achieved or done had you not experienced what you are currently experiencing in your life. There are things that you have been postponing to do until you were faced with a challenge that reminded you of what you needed to do. Nobody likes challenges, but they hold gifts when we look close enough and when we take the time to reflect.
There are things that have happened in my life that pushed me forward and got me out of procrastination. Always remember Romans 8:28 which says, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose”. No matter how hard your situation is, God can turn it around for your good. Sometimes He causes us to go through things in order to achieve our purpose or His will for our lives. We know that God has given us free will, however, He uses our situations to get us to another level.
I have seen it happen in my life. I had been planning to visit my family and relatives recently and due to the pandemic just curtailed my travels. I was comfortable sitting at home and video-calling but it was not enough. I longed to see everyone but kept on postponing. In fact, we had to cancel the family reunion last year due to the pandemic and couldn’t carry on. I had been looking forward to seeing my cousins, uncles, aunts including my siblings but we couldn’t meet. Everyone stays at a different province and cross-travelling was not allowed at some point which meant that we had to stay put.
I prayed about my desire to see the family but since we couldn’t meet for a reunion chances of seeing everyone the way that I desired were very slim but God always have an ace up His sleeve. He made it clear in Isaiah 55 that He and I don’t think the same way nor do things the same.
“For my thoughts are not your thoughts,
neither are your ways my ways,”
declares the Lord.
“As the heavens are higher than the earth,
so are my ways higher than your ways
and my thoughts than your thoughts. (Isaiah 55:8-9).
I thought about this trip over and over again and my planning was never in alignment with everything that I wished to accomplish and the timing was never right until I received unexpected feedback from a mentor, I had been working with to complete a certain project. I had been certain that I was on the right track and doing a great job until he dropped the bomb. I was not near where he wanted to be with the project and all this time, while I was thinking that I was making progress, it was not so. As you can imagine, I was shattered.
When you think that you are doing something right and told that you have been going round in circles, it knocks off your confidence. I was technically down and angry at him and myself and God whom I believed for the manifestation of this project. I could not believe that if God gave it to me and the process of getting there, why would He let me struggle and not do it right. I was angrier at the project leader since when I asked for feedback months ago it never came forth because he was busy with other things but when he finally could get around to looking at my work, it was not satisfactory and not according to standard.
I got mad to the point of longing for family comfort and insight. I needed wisdom from the elders on whether I was on course or off course and whether I should continue with the project or not and the only way I could get the counsel I was looking for, was to visit the family in the midst of everything happening. I know that I had prayed about it before and asked God to make a way for this visit. I wasn’t particularly certain of the date and I thought as soon as things had subsided and not so many infections were reported then I would journey but cases were rising and people getting infected daily.
So, I quit the project in my heart and packed up the laptop in the bag and shut off and took the journey to see my family and relatives. It was such a blessing as I could literally see everyone. We were not gathered in a group like we used to but I could visit every home of my relatives and spent time with them since everyone was keeping away from the streets and shopping malls. This arrangement was even better than having a formal family get-together.
Instead of discussing the frustrations I had with the project with them, I wanted to hear about their lives and how they have been coping and we talked family stuff. I was grateful for the weekend and that special time with family. Had it not been of the frustrations I was feeling with the project, I probably wouldn’t have travelled at that time. I would have postponed the way I did in the past. Surprisingly, I did not experience the fear that I had before the trip, though I was cautious to take all the precautionary measures required.
The seemingly project hardship was a means of propelling me forward to seeing my finally without fear this time. When I returned, I had another private project in the house that I had been postponing to do as well and I put my energies into it until it was completed. With that unpleasant situation, I was able to complete two things that had been hanging in my mind because I thought I did not have the time. So, the challenge that I faced, gave way for other things to happen in my life that were equally important to me. I didn’t see any other way they could have been achieved if it was not for this deviation. We need to begin to look at things differently because every cloud as they say, has a silver lining. Every difficulty has wrapped around it a gift, we just have to look close enough and be open to the guidance.
“Come to the edge," he said.
"We can't, we're afraid!" they responded.
"Come to the edge," he said.
"We can't, We will fall!" they responded.
"Come to the edge," he said.
And so they came.
And he pushed them.
And they flew.”
― Guillaume Apollinaire
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